Advice to Men

The Prophet (S) said:

The best of you are those of best conduct. (Al-Bukhaaree, Muslim and others.)

And he (S) described some of the attributes of that good conduct:

The best of you are those who are best to their women. (Ibn Maajah; authentic)

And:

The best of you are those who are best to his family. (At-Tabaraanee; authentic)

And he (S) gave a clear example of a person who has good conduct:
The best of you are those who are best to his family, and I am the best of you toward my family. (At-Tahaawee, at-Tirmithee and others; authentic. See al-Albaanee's Aadaab az-Zafaaf)

Anas (R) narrated that he (S) told the camel driver who pushed the camels carrying his wives: Drive slowly for you are driving mounts which carry vessels of glass. Abu Qibaalah [who narrated this from Anas] said: "Allaah's Messenger (S) uttered words that if someone among you had uttered them, you would have found fault with him." (Muslim)

Allaah reminds us:

"And live with them honorably... " (Soorat an-Nisaa' 4:19)

The Prophet (S) was a man who,

"Used to work for his family and when he heard the adhaan he would go out." (Al-Bukhaaree from 'Aa'ishah)

Allaah (T) praised his (S) character:

"Surely yours is the highest standard of character." (Soorat al-Qalam 68:4)

'Aa'ishah (R) said that;

"He would mend his clothes, milk his sheep, and do what a man does in his home." (Ahmad and others, authentic. See Saheeh ul-Jaami' no. #4812)

Jaabir (R) said:

"It never happened that Allaah's Messenger (S) was asked for anything and he said, 'No'." (Muslim)

Anas (R) said:

"I have never seen anyone more kind to his family than Allaah's Messenger..." (Muslim)

The Messenger (S) said:
He who does not show mercy, no mercy will be shown to him. (Muslim)

And He (S) was a man who -

"...never hit anyone with his hand, not a women, nor a servant, except during jihaad in Allaah's cause..." (Muslim from 'Aa'ishah [R])

Allaah (T) said (what means):

"Indeed in Allaah's Messenger there is a good example for he who has hope in Allaah and the Last Day and remembers Allaah much." (Soorat al-Ahzaab 33:21)

The Prophet (S) clearly admonished men:

...And have taqwaa of Allaah with regard to your treatment of women. Indeed you have acquired them through a trust with Allaah, and intercourse has been made lawful to you by Allaah's Word...You are responsible for providing them with food and clothing in a fitting manner... (Muslim)

He (S) clarified this point for those whom it may not be clear, when he was asked:

"O Allaah's Messenger! what is the right of ones' wife upon him?" That you feed her when you feed yourself; that you clothe her when you clothe yourself; that you should not strike her in her face; and never invoke ugliness upon her ; and not separate from them except in their homes.
(Al-Bukhaaree and others)

The Prophet (S) warned of a women's right being infringed upon due to excess in religious devotion:
Observe fast sometimes, and leave them at others; stand for the night prayer, and also sleep at night. Your body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you, and your wife has a right over you. (Al-Bukhaaree)

And the Prophet (S);

"Forbade that a man should come (unexpectedly) to his wife like a night visitor doubting her fidelity and spying into her lapses." (Muslim)

And he (S) clarified the sanctity of the marriage:

The condition most deserving to be fulfilled is that by which the private parts became lawful to you. (Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim)

Remember the command of Allaah (T):

"And have taqwaa of Allaah, from whom you seek your mutual rights." (Soorat an-Nisaa' 4:1)

The Prophet (S) also commanded:

I command you to take care of the women in a good manner for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked. So I command you to take care of women in the best manner. (Al-Bukhaaree)

Allaah (T) said (what means):

"And do not forget graciousness between yourselves." (Soorat al-Baqarah 2:237)

The Prophet (S) advised men:

A woman is married for four things;

Her wealth;
her family status;
her beauty;
and her religion.

So marry the religious woman, or you will lose. (Al-Bukhaaree)

He (S) clarified that this kind of woman is among the best wealth that a man could find. When he (S) was asked; "What kind of wealth should one seek?" He (S) replied: Let one of you seek a thankful heart, a mindful tongue and a believing wife who can help him in the matter of the Hereafter. "
(Ibn Maajah; authentic and similar with at-Tirmithee)

And Allaah (T) said (what means): "...And be patient with them..." (Soorat Taha 20:125)

And the Prophet (S) clearly warned these men:

I have not left, after me, any affliction more harmful to men than women. (Al-Bukhaaree)

Allaah (T) warns:

"Truly among your wives and your children there are enemies for you." (Soorat at-Taghaabun 64:14)

And Allaah (T) decided that:

"Men are maintainers of women. " (Soorat an-Nisaa' 4:34)

And the Prophet (S) warned a person who had a position over others;

Beware of the curse of the oppressed, for there is no screen between his supplication and Allaah.
(Al-Bukhaaree)

And:

The oppressed ones' supplication is answered even if he is a sinner; for he is himself responsible for his sins. (At-Tayaalisee. Authentic, see Saheeh ul-Jaami' no. 3377)

And:

Three supplications are answered, there is no doubt in it:...and the supplication of the wronged person. (Ahmad, al-Bukhaaree in al-Aadaab, at-Tirmithee, and Abu Daawood, authentic. See Saheeh ul-Jaami' no. 3028)

And the Prophet (S) commanded the Muslims to:

Help your brother whether he is an oppressor or he is oppressed. Some People asked; "O Allaah's Messenger! It is alright to help him if he is oppressed, but how should we help him if he is an oppressor?" The Prophet (S) said, By preventing him from oppressing others. (Al-Bukhaaree)

And he (S) listed to help the oppressed as one of the rights a Muslim has upon every other Muslim.
(Al-Bukhaaree)

And Ibn `Umar (R) narrated that he (S) said:

Oppression will be a darkness on the Day of Resurrection. (Al-Bukhaaree)

He (S) let an abusive person know that he may carry the sins of his victim of the Day of Resurrection:

Whoever has oppressed another person concerning his reputation, or anything else, he should beg for his forgiveness before the Day of Resurrection when there will be no wealth. But if he has good deeds those good deeds will be taken from him according to the oppression which he has done, and if he has no good deeds, the sins of the oppressed person will be loaded upon him. (Al-Bukhaaree)

And Allaah (T) said (what means):

"And have taqwaa of Allaah, from whom you seek your mutual rights." (Soorat an-Nisaa' 4:1)

True Muslims And The Concept Of Recompense As Given By Quran

Those who avoid the greater crimes and shameful deeds and when they are angry even then forgive;

And those who answer the call of their Lord and establish regular prayer; who (conduct) their affairs by mutual Consultation; who spend out of what We bestow on them for Sustenance;

And those who when an oppressive wrong is inflicted on them (are not frightened but) help and defend themselves.

The recompense for an injury is an injury equal thereto (in degree): but if a person forgives and makes reconciliation His reward is due from Allah: for (Allah) does not those who do wrong.

But indeed if any do help and defend themselves after a wrong (done) to them against such there is no cause of blame.

The blame is only against those who oppress men with wrong-doing and insolently transgress beyond bounds through the land defying right and justice: For such there is a painful doom.

But indeed if anyone shows patience and forgives that would truly be an exercise of courageous will and resolution in the conduct of affairs.

(Al Quran: Surah Ash-Shura Ruku 4 Ayah 37 to 43)

Knowledge–Hadith

Al-Hadith

=========

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 80:

Narrated by: Narrated Anas:

Hadith:

Allah's Apostle said, "From among the portents of the Hour are (the following):1. Religious knowledge will be taken away (by the death of Religious learned men).2. (Religious) ignorance will prevail.3. Drinking of Alcoholic drinks (will be very common).4. There will be prevalence of open illegal sexual intercourse.

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 81:

Narrated by: Narrated Anas:

Hadith:

I will narrate to you a Hadith and none other than I will tell you about after it. I heard Allah's Apostle saying: From among the portents of the Hour are(the following):1. Religious knowledge will decrease (by the death of religious learned men).2. Religious ignorance will prevail.3. There will be prevalence of open illegal sexual intercourse.4. Women will increase in number and men will decrease in number so much so that fifty women will be looked after by one man.

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 82:

Narrated by: Narrated Ibn 'Umar:

Hadith:

Allah's Apostle said, "While I was sleeping, I saw that a cup full of milk was brought to me and I drank my fill till I noticed (the milk) its wetness coming out of my nails. Then I gave the remaining milk to 'Umar Ibn Al-Khattab" The companions of the Prophet asked, "What have you interpreted (about this dream)? "O Allah's Apostle ,!" he replied, "(It is religious) knowledge."

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 83:

Narrated by: Narrated 'Abdullah bin Amr bin Al 'Aas:

Hadith:

Allah's Apostle stopped (for a while near the Jimar) at Mina during his last Hajj for the people and they were asking him questions. A man came and said,"I forgot and got my head shaved before slaughtering the Hadi (sacrificing animal)." The Prophet said, "There is no harm, go and do the slaughtering now." Then another person came and said, "I forgot and slaughtered (the camel)before Rami (throwing of the pebbles) at the Jamra." The Prophet said, "Do theRami now and there is no harm."The narrator added: So on that day, when the Prophet was asked about anything(as regards the ceremonies of Hajj) performed before or after its due time,his reply was: "Do it (now) and there is no harm."

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 85:

Narrated by: Narrated Abu Herbaria:

Hadith:

The Prophet said, "(Religious) knowledge will be taken away (by the death of religious scholars) ignorance (in religion) and afflictions will appear; andHarj will increase." It was asked, "What is Harj, O Allah's Apostle?" He replied by beckoning with his hand indicating "killing." (Fateh-al-Bari Page192, Vol. 1)

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 86:

Narrated by: Narrated Asma:

Hadith:

I came to 'Aisha while she was praying, and said to her, "What has happened to the people?" She pointed out towards the sky. (I looked towards the mosque),and saw the people offering the prayer. Aisha said, "Subhan Allah." I said to her, "Is there a sign?" She nodded with her head meaning, "Yes." I, too, then stood (for the prayer of eclipse) till I became (nearly) unconscious and later on I poured water on my head. After the prayer, the Prophet praised and glorified Allah and then said,"Just now at this place I have seen what I have never seen before, including Paradise and Hell. No doubt it has been inspired to me that you will be put to trials in your graves and these trials will be like the trials ofMasiah-ad-Dajjal or nearly like it (the sub narrator is not sure whichexpression Asma' used). You will be asked, 'What do you know about this man(the Prophet Muhammad)?' Then the faithful believer (or Asma' said a similarword) will reply, 'He is Muhammad Allah's Apostle who had come to us withclear evidences and guidance and so we accepted his teachings and followedhim. And he is Muhammad.' And he will repeat it thrice. Then the angels willsay to him, 'Sleep in peace as we have come to know that you were a faithfulbeliever.' On the other hand, a hypocrite or a doubtful person will reply, 'Ido not know, but I heard the people saying something and so I said it.' (thesame). "

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 87:

Narrated by: Narrated Abu Jamra:

Hadith:

I was an interpreter between the people and Ibn 'Abbas. Once Ibn 'Abbas saidthat a delegation of the tribe of'Abdul Qais came to the Prophet who askedthem, "Who are the people (i.e. you)? (Or) who are the delegates?" Theyreplied, "We are from the tribe of Rabi'a." Then the Prophet said to them,"Welcome, O people (or said, "O delegation (of 'Abdul Qais).") Neither willyou have disgrace nor will you regret." They said, "We have come to you from adistant place and there is the tribe of the infidels of Mudar interveningbetween you and us and we cannot come to you except in the sacred month. Soplease order us to do something good (religious deeds) and that we may alsoinform our people whom we have left behind (at home) and that we may enterParadise (by acting on them.)" The Prophet ordered them to do four things, andforbade them from four things. He ordered them to believe in Allah Alone, theHonorable the Majestic and said to them, "Do you know what is meant bybelieving in Allah Alone?" They replied, "Allah and His Apostle know better."Thereupon the Prophet said, "(That means to testify that none has the right tobe worshipped but Allah and that Muhammad is His Apostle, to offer prayersperfectly, to pay Zakat, to observe fasts during the month of Ramadan, (and)to pay Al-Khumus (one fifth of the booty to be given in Allah's cause)." Thenhe forbade them four things, namely Ad-Dubba.' Hantam, Muzaffat (and) An-Naqiror Muqaiyar(These were the names of pots in which alcoholic drinks used to beprepared). The Prophet further said, "Memorize them (these instructions) andtell them to the people whom you have left behind."

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 88:

Narrated by: Narrated 'Abdullah bin Abi Mulaika:

Hadith:

'Uqba bin Al-Harith said that he had married the daughter of Abi Ihab bin'Aziz. Later on a woman came to him and said, "I have suckled (nursed) Uqbaand the woman whom he married (his wife) at my breast." 'Uqba said to her,"Neither I knew that you have suckled (nursed) me nor did you tell me." Thenhe rode over to see Allah's Apostle at Medina, and asked him about it. Allah'sApostle said, "How can you keep her as a wife when it has been said (that sheis your foster-sister)?" Then Uqba divorced her, and she married another man.

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 89:

Narrated by: Narrated 'Umar:

Hadith:

My Ansari neighbor from Bani Umaiya bin Zaid who used to live at 'AwaliAl-Medina and used to visit the Prophet by turns. He used to go one day and Ianother day. When I went I used to bring the news of that day regarding theDivine Inspiration and other things, and when he went, he used to do the samefor me. Once my Ansari friend, in his turn (on returning from the Prophet),knocked violently at my door and asked if I was there." I became horrified andcame out to him. He said, "Today a great thing has happened." I then went toHafsa and saw her weeping. I asked her, "Did Allah's Apostle divorce you all?"She replied, "I do not know." Then, I entered upon the Prophet and said whilestanding, "Have you divorced your wives?" The Prophet replied in the negative.On what I said, "Allahu-Akbar (Allah is Greater)." (See Hadith No. 119, Vol. 3for details)

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 90:

Narrated by: Narrated Abu Mas'ud Al-Ansari:

Hadith:

Once a man said to Allah's Apostle "O Allah's Apostle! I may not attend the(compulsory congregational) prayer because so and so (the Imam) prolongs theprayer when he leads us for it. The narrator added: "I never saw the Prophetmore furious in giving advice than he was on that day. The Prophet said, "Opeople! Some of you make others dislike good deeds (the prayers). So whoeverleads the people in prayer should shorten it because among them there are thesick the weak and the needy (having some jobs to do)."

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 91:

Narrated by: Narrated Zaid bin Khalid Al-Juhani:

Hadith:

A man asked the Prophet about the picking up of a "Luqata" (fallen lostthing). The Prophet replied, "Recognize and remember its tying material andits container, and make public announcement (about it) for one year, thenutilize it but give it to its owner if he comes." Then the person asked aboutthe lost camel. On that, the Prophet got angry and his cheeks or his Facebecame red and he said, "You have no concern with it as it has its watercontainer, and its feet and it will reach water, and eat (the leaves) of treestill its owner finds it." The man then asked about the lost sheep. The Prophetreplied, "It is either for you, for your brother (another person) or for thewolf."

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 92:

Narrated by: Narrated Abu Musa:

Hadith:

The Prophet was asked about things which he did not like, but when thequestioners insisted, the Prophet got angry. He then said to the people, "Askme anything you like." A man asked, "Who is my father?" The Prophet replied,"Your father is Hudhafa." Then another man got up and said, "Who is my father,O Allah's Apostle ?" He replied, "Your father is Salim, Maula (the freedslave) of Shaiba." So when 'Umar saw that (the anger) on the face of theProphet he said, "O Allah's Apostle! We repent to Allah (Our offending you)."

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 95:

Narrated by: Narrated Anas:

Hadith:

Whenever the Prophet spoke a sentence (said a thing), he used to repeat itthrice so that the people could understand it properly from him and wheneverhe asked permission to enter, (he knocked the door) thrice with greeting.

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 96:

Narrated by: Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Amr:

Hadith:

Once Allah's Apostle remained behind us in a journey. He joined us while wewere performing ablution for the 'Asr prayer which was over-due. We were justpassing wet hands over our feet (not washing them properly) so the Prophetaddressed us in a loud voice and said twice or thrice, "Save your heels fromthe fire."

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 97:

Narrated by: Narrated Abu Burda's father:

Hadith:

Allah's Apostle said "Three persons will have a double reward:1. A Person from the people of the scriptures who believed in his prophet(Jesus or Moses) and then believed in the Prophet Muhammad (i .e. has embracedIslam).2. A slave who discharges his duties to Allah and his master.3. A master of a woman-slave who teaches her good manners and educates her inthe best possible way (the religion) and manumits her and then marries her."

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 97g:

Narrated by: Narrated Ibn 'Abbas:

Hadith:

Once Allah's Apostle came out while Bilal was accompanying him. He wenttowards the women thinking that they had not heard him (i.e. his sermon). Sohe preached them and ordered them to pay alms. (Hearing that) the womenstarted giving alms; some donated their ear-rings, some gave their rings andBilal was collecting them in the corner of his garment.

Writer: Sahih Bukhari

Chapter: Knowledge

Hadith: Volume 1, Book 3, Number 98:

Narrated by: Narrated Abu Huraira:

Hadith:

I said: "O Allah's Apostle! Who will be the luckiest person, who will gainyour intercession on the Day of Resurrection?" Allah's Apostle said: O AbuHuraira! "I have thought that none will ask me about it before you as I knowyour longing for the (learning of) Hadiths. The luckiest person who will havemy intercession on the Day of Resurrection will be the one who said sincerelyfrom the bottom of his heart "None has the right to be worshipped but Allah."And 'Umar bin 'Abdul 'Aziz wrote to Abu Bakr bin Hazm, "Look for the knowledgeof Hadith and get it written, as I am afraid that religious knowledge willvanish and the religious learned men will pass away (die). Do not acceptanything save the Hadiths of the Prophet. Circulate knowledge and teach theignorant, for knowledge does not vanish except when it is kept secretly (tooneself)."

A Instructive Sign in Milk

[16.Surah Nahl : Ayah 66]

"And verily in cattle (too) will ye find an instructive sign. From what is within their bodies between excretions and blood, We produce, for your drink, milk, pure and agreeable to those who drink it."